Making Friends 101: How To Get Yourself Out There
Everyone knows that making friends is hard. You come across the most attractive and interesting people on the bus, at the grocery store, and at the gym, but for some reason, you just don’t have that feeling. You’re not even sure why. Perhaps you just don’t have the energy to make friends, or you’re afraid that you’ll be judged by your new friends, or your new friends don’t like your style of dress, or you’re afraid that they’ll be too much of a clique, or you just don’t want to take the time to get to know them. Fear not; this article is here to help. I’m going to give you some tips to get yourself out there and start connecting with people.
Reconnect with old friends
Learning how to make friends again can help ease the transition from student to adult and make it easier to connect with people in the real world. Sometimes making friends can be hard, especially coming from a small town like a small town in the middle of nowhere.
Once you’ve established yourself in a new place, you may find that you have a lot of friends and a lot of people who want to talk to you but only a few who you really want to talk to.
Get a new hobby
Most people find that they have more friends than they have time to spend with them. This is especially true for millennials, who are more concerned with their careers and trying to impress others than finding a girlfriend or boyfriend.
If you want to meet new people, a good start is to join an organization. Whether it’s an athletic team, a service club, or a hobby club, there are plenty of ways to meet new people and make new friends.
Most people think that you have to meet new people in the real world to make friends. But that’s not always possible. Sometimes it’s just easier to make friends online. I guarantee you can meet friends online—and find them much easier than making friends in the real world.
Be a good listener
As a good listener, you’ll be able to make more friends and develop more connections with people you don’t know. People won’t be able to tell when you’re not listening to them, and you’ll have more conversations with people than you would have otherwise.
Also, you’ll be able to meet new people and make new friends, which will help you grow your social circle and make you feel more comfortable in many situations.
I used to be a shy person, but with time I found out that it is not necessary to be. People usually don’t care if you are shy, weird, a nerd, a cutie, or any other label in social settings. A key element of putting yourself out there is being confident. Be proud of who you are. So boost your self-esteem. People are just human, and if you are able to make a good first impression, you will make many friends.
Seek help from mutual friends
Sometimes, life can feel lonely, especially when you’re an introvert or just don’t have many friends. But being alone isn’t the only way to feel lonely; sometimes, you feel empty inside because you don’t have any friends to go out with. So, what can you do? If you want to be surrounded by friends, but don’t want to be stuck at home all the time, then you need to become more social and ask for help.
When you’re just starting out in the world of friendship, it can be very intimidating. How can you ask someone to hang out when you’ve never even met them? What will you talk about? What will they think of you? How can you expect someone to want to be your friend when you’ve been an introvert your entire life?
If you want to make friends, the first step is to get out there. People tend to stay close to people they know, so the first step to meeting people is to do what your mother would want you to do: Get out there.